Who doesn't want men to gravitate towards them and find them extremely attractive? Especially if you are single and are looking for the right man to compliment and complete your life.
When we are trying to attract men we put on the typical 'attractive' women roles. There are actually a few of the stereotype roles that girls play in order to get the guy. If one doesn't work we try the next one, and on and on.
I'm not sure whether we've learned this through movies, friends, or just tales of it working passed down from generation to generation but it's instinctual when we are trying to impress a guy. It's time we get rid of these tricks, that don't normally work, and start being real. These common girly stereotypes that we use to attract men are:
- Acting whiny
- Acting needy
- Acting dumb
- Acting fake
- Acting clueless
- Acting naive
And everything in between these traits.
These really do get used every day. I see it all around me and to be honest I used to be guilty of it as well. I was led to believe that it was what guys liked.
It may be cute to little boys who are looking for a fling, but believe me when I say it is not attractive and endearing to men who want a committed relationship with a woman. In fact it's a turn off and annoying.
The biggest thing you can do to attract men is to be confident in yourself and your abilities.
Have self-confidence in yourself, and feeling like you are one of the best catches out there and that any man would be lucky to have you in their life, is sexy to a man.
- Have confidence in your ability to do things on your own without a man's help.
- Have confidence in your ability to go out in life and make something of yourself or contribute something to this world.
- Have confidence to be true to yourself and your beliefs, standards, and morals.
There really is nothing sexier than confidence. Think of the way you view men and what a self confident guy looks like to you as opposed to a guy who isn't sure about himself and everything that he does.
Wouldn't you rather be honest with a guy and let him see what a strong and independent person you are instead of pretending to be something you are not and have him find out later that you are really not an air-head who will serve his every need?
Doing this does not make it look like you don't need or want someone in your life. It just shows them that you are a happy person who would make his life better for being with you. And that is what a guy is looking for - a woman who will make his life better for having her.
Men are attracted to a woman who knows how to flirt. By flirting I mean making them want you and see you as someone that they want to know more about and possibly have in their life.
Flirting takes some pressure off of him if he's not sure whether he should approach you or not. If you give him some clear signals that you are interested than he can move forward, ask you out, and do it with more confidence than if you hadn't give him a clue.
There is subtle flirting and there is not so subtle flirting, and while you think
they would have different impacts, they pretty much can produce the same
desired result. He will notice you and know you are interested
Here are 4 things that will drive him wild.
1. Be The Sexiest You That You Can Be!
This is where the self-confidence shows itself again.
When you want to attract men show off what you got! If you have good legs then show those off. If you have a chest that would make most girls jealous then show it off! As long as you are comfortable with it you can accentuate your features for him to notice.
Think about passing a guy in everyday plain old sweats and a very loose T-shirt and then passing him in a tighter shirt and some butt accentuating jeans and guess which one you`ll get the reaction you want from? It's true!
Guys also like to see some skin because it makes them think about other parts that they are not seeing so stay comfortable but sexy and strut your stuff past him every chance you get.
2. Use Physical Contact to Your Advantage.
Remember we are talking about flirting here and not outright foreplay so keep this to a light flirty kind of feel.
When you touch him it will send shivers down his spine, just like it does for you. You can touch his hand just a second longer when getting something from him, or put your hand on his arm when you are 'trying' to sneak past him.
Any opportunity you get - grab it. When you see a moment to 'accidentally' touch him, take it!
3. Be Aware of Your Body Language.
Attract men with your body language. Eye contact is huge in letting him know you are into him and will make it easy for him to approach you. If you maintain eye contact for just a second too long it gives a different energy than a normal look or the way too long glare that means hateful eye contact. Use it at the right time and in the right way, and he'll feel it to his bones.
Always hold your body confidently around him to portray your confidence in what you want. Remember that confidence is a huge turn on.
Use your smile to let him know that you are thinking about him in more ways than he may know. A cute and sly smile will have him wondering what's going on in your head while knowing that you are into him.
Keep your body language open to him to allow him to see that you are interested in him and that he has a shot with you. This means not crossing your arms when talking to him or turning your head away from him.
Your body language can tell him what he wants to know and the best part about it is that it is instinctual in us and comes natural when we are flirting. It also give him those feelings of being wanted.
4. Be Positive and Happy
One of the most attractive things that everyone loves, not just men, is being positive and happy.
Men will take notice of you if you are an upbeat and positive woman. They will want some of that happiness and they will do what they can to get it!
Do not put down other people - this will set you apart from the 'ugly' woman who gossip and put others down for their own ego.
Do not complain about everything, including your looks. Do not whine about having to do something.
The best way to be positive in life is to just enjoy your life - and enjoy the ride.
This attitude will ooze out of your every pore and men will be instantly attracted to you. You can incorporate this into your flirting when you are around him or talking to him.
One note though: Don't be an air-head! Don't laugh at his jokes with a cackle that never ends. Don't bounce around like a little girl. Instead, be an intelligent woman who looks at the bright side of life - and enjoys every minute of it.
Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if a guy is really into you or if he just likes you as a friend.
If a man is really attracted to you, even if he has not told you or your friends, there will be some obvious signs of attraction that you can watch for to know for sure.
1. He agrees with you, even when you are wrong.
Whether you are saying that the sky is purple or that David Spade is the funniest comic ever he will agree with you if he is really into you. He will not chance arguing with you and will try to keep you happy with him and delighted that he thinks the same.
If you find him disagreeing with you about almost everything you say than he may be trying to make a point about what he thinks about the way you think.
2. Whether you are alone or in a crowd he's only got eyes for you.
Guys who are really into you will be all about you when you are out. He won't break eye contact for the nearest girl walking by and he'll be checking you out while you are together. Eyes are a huge indicator of how someone feels about you and just looking into them should let you know what he's feeling.
3. He really listens to you and tries to respond back with something you like.
Guys that like you want you to know that they are interested in what you have to say. They will laugh at the appropriate times and respond with an appropriate comment. They will be engaged in the conversation instead of just someone you are talking to.
4. He will be attentive and he will make sure you are okay.
Whether he lets you wear his jacket when you are cold or helps you get untangled from some sticky situation he will be there for you and make sure that you are okay even when he doesn't have to.
5. He takes your side on everything.
If you and your girlfriend are arguing about something silly he will always take your side. Give him a choice between your opinion and her opinion and you'll see that he chooses you no matter what. He will put some pretend thought into it but he will know all alone what side he's on.
My favorite mantra is something isn't working then fix it. This is true for many things including how to attract men.
If your mind-set about men is negative or even twisted in some way, then you will probably not attract good men to you.
If your confidence is not as high as it could be, then you may settle for jerks or 'the same old' guy that you always get.
There are many things that could be going wrong with your approach to men - how you act, how you talk, how you think, how you move...the list goes on and on.
My point is if you always attract jerks, if you always lose the guy before you get him, if you don't attract men period, then something you are doing is not working and you need to fix it.
The only way to do that is to learn from other people who know what they are talking about and may give you some insights into what you are doing wrong.
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